“That night, I realized there are no warmups, no practice rounds, no reset buttons. Every day we’re writing a few more words of a story. And when you die, it’s not like “here lies Drew, he came in 174th place.” So from then on, I stopped trying to make my life perfect, and instead tried to make it interesting. I wanted my story to be an adventure — and that’s made all the difference.”
Drew Houston, CEO of Dropbox, from his Commencement address at MIT

On purpose, following your heart, and finding your life’s work

Steve Jobs, in his famous Stanford commencement address:

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

There’s this old Jewish parable I like about Rabbi Akiva. Akiva was walking home from the synagogue late one foggy night and came upon a fork in the road. The fog clouded his vision and he missed the turn to his house. Walking down the wrong path, he found himself at the wall of a giant castle.

A guard yelled down to him, “Who are you? What are you doing here?”

“What did you say?” replied the Rabbi, looking up into the fog trying to see where the voice was coming from.

The guard repeated himself: “Who are you? What are you doing here?”

The Rabbi thought for a moment, peering up into the fog. “How much are they paying you?”

“About 10 Denarius a week,” the guard yells down.

Akiva replies, “I’ll pay you double that to come to my house and ask me that every morning.

I mentioned on Twitter last week that I collect commencement speeches and with this year’s slowly being posted online, I’m finding some wonderful new additions to my collection. I was trying to find a quote to pull out of Neil Gaiman’s address to this year’s graduating class at The University of the Arts but there were too many to pick just one. The entire address speaks to living a creative life in the twenty-first century and I found myself inspired and challenged.

He closes with some advice Stephen King gave him that he failed to take. Gaiman was at the height of his career and people were praising his work and King saw this and said to him, “This is really great. You should enjoy it.”

This is great. You should enjoy it. I don’t know about you, but I think I need to remind myself of that more often.

“Research tells us that one of the most important causal factors associated with happiness and well-being is your meaningful connections with other human beings. Look around today. Certainly one benchmark of your postgraduation success should be how many of these people are still your close friends in 10 or 20 years.”

From 10 Things Your Commencement Speaker Won’t Tell You

The people I met in college are the best people I met in my life and some of my closest and dearest friends. And maybe my only regret is that I didn’t realize it at the time.